In marriage we often bump up against each other in ways that are either easy to understand and move through or with problems that are perpetual and without resolution. John Gottman, Ph.D., calls these perpetual problems, and teaches in the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work that they will always be there. The key is … Continue reading Week 10 Seek to Understand
My kids like to watch a TV show called Oscar’s Oasis. It features Oscar, a little gecko, who is always fighting a trio of predators over the same object. The conflict comes because they want different things, e.g., the predator group wants an umbrella to serve as a satellite but Oscar is trying to use … Continue reading Week 09 Managing Conflict; Consecrating Ourselves
From H. Wallace Goddard’s book Drawing Heaven into Your Marriage, I learned several elements of pride within myself that I hadn’t necessarily defined as such previously. The first sting was that “the natural man is inclined to love himself and fix others.” I find myself doing this with my children all the time. This is … Continue reading Week 08 Beware of Pride
There are marriages that are composed of two spouses that endure seemingly everything, especially each other. While staying together seems the top priority, they still are so apart from each other emotionally. One couple has a grieving wife, she lost her mother, and she’s checked out of life. She drinks when she’s not at work … Continue reading Week 7: Staying Emotionally Connected
In Goddard’s book Drawing Heaven into Marriage, he talks about the importance of sacrificing for one’s spouse. When Adam made sacrifices to the Lord, an angel came and asked him why he was doing it. He didn’t know, he just knew he had been commanded to do it and intended obedience no matter what. The … Continue reading Week 06 Cherishing Your Spouse
John M. Gottman, Ph.D. wrote a book called The Seven Principles for Making Marriages Work, and in it he goes about blasting marriage myths. How many times have you heard that the key to a good marriage is communication? How about sharing common interests keeping couples together? Others include avoiding conflict and going about it … Continue reading Week 05 Behaviors that Negatively Affect Marriage
There are different kinds of marriages; today I want to focus on just two. Elder Bruce C. Hafen describes covenant marriage as giving 100% and contract marriage as 50%. A contract marriage is often composed of two people who are in it for themselves. As long as their personal happiness and needs are being met, … Continue reading Week 04 Doctrine of Eternal Marriage
In October of 2014, a decision was published by the Supreme Court holding the States responsible to recognize and give license to marry to same gender couples. I had heard about it in the distance, was aware of its happening, and as a religious person, I was disappointed to hear it. This week I read … Continue reading Week 03 Threats to Marriage
Love is not an action or a technique; it is a feeling which guides our actions. When love fills our hearts, our actions reflect that love, and our desire is to do only that which will benefit our children.
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